DAME Deborah James tells her children to 'marry only for love' and to be prepared for life's twists and turns, in an inspiring final letter.
The former deputy headteacher and cancer campaigner included the letter in her upcoming second book, How To Live When You Could Be Dead. Alongside Lauren Mahon and Rachael Bland, she launched the You, Me And The Big C podcast in 2018. Campaigner Deborah died in June at the age of 40 after suffering from bowel cancer.
The late Deborah James' final letter to her husband Sebastien, son Hugo, age 14, and daughter Eloise, 12, has been revealed in her posthumous book, How To Live ...
“So, my greatest advice to you is that you can do whatever you want with those seconds. Deborah James died on 28 June 2022. He holds me up when I can’t hold myself and wipes away my tears.” None of us can drink from empty cups. Relaxing isn’t an indulgence — it’s a form of refilling ourselves. Because if I tell them they won’t be, then they might not be. “I have always loved my husband. “You can make plans, and you can have goals, but you have to be prepared for the fact that sometimes life is more interesting when you go off-piste — so be brave. He makes me feel safe.” “I feel robbed of the freedom of a body without pain to kiss with, the freedom for us to make whimsical plans for our future and retirement together. “As cancer brings my life to an end, I feel this cruel realisation that I’m not fully able to be myself with the one person I have adored and needed in my life more than anyone else. “It’s important that you don’t allow the big arguments to build up, when all you really want is to forget about everything and cuddle the one person who you love.
In extracts from her book, How to Live when you Could be Dead, Dame Deborah James, who died from bowel cancer at the age of 40 in June, reveals how facing ...
Further tests revealed the tumour around her bile duct had grown in the four months she had stopped cancer treatment and had caused a blockage. Despite admitting in her last months that she was 'absolutely petrified a lot of the time', the host of the You, Me and The Big C podcast said she realised she was able to get through even the most terrifying aspects of her illness. When she received her diagnosis at the age of 35, Dame Deborah said she had 'no choice' but to look her greatest fear in the eye. Dame Deborah wrote in her book that she managed to have a lovely Christmas with her husband Seb and children Hugo, 14, and Eloise, 12, in 2021 before her health deteriorated She said the episodes would sometimes wake her up in the night with a feeling she was dying, The Sun reports. The broadcaster and campaigner, who died in June at the age of 40, has revealed in a book to be published posthumously that she lived with anxiety for 20 years.
Deborah James shared how her “anxiety levels dropped” following her 2016 cancer diagnosis in an excerpt from her posthumously published book, ...
"I had no choice any more — I had to look my biggest fear straight in the eye. Speaking about her Bowelbabe Fund organization, she told the outlet, "I always knew there was one thing I wanted to do before I died. "When I was forced to confront what I'd spent 20 years worrying about, something shifted in me," she added. "The worst happened and my fear was realized — I was told I had incurable cancer and that I would die," she wrote. "But instead, my anxiety levels dropped." But you don't quite realize how little time we have to suddenly organize things.
Dame Deborah James wrote a letter to her children, Hugo and Eloise, offering sweet and important advice about marriage.
Deborah admits she ‘fancied’ Sebastien from the moment they first met and knew she would marry him by the time they got to their third date. Deborah, who was 40 years old when she passed away, wrote a letter to her children – Hugo, 14, and Eloise, 12 – in the months before she died. ‘I have always loved my husband.’
DAME DEBORAH JAMES finished her second book, How to Live When You Could Be Dead, shortly before her death due to bowel cancer back in June of this year.
There are various evidence-based treatments that have been found to help with anxiety and panic disorder. A panic attack is a rush of intense mental and physical symptoms, which can come on very quickly for no apparent reason, causing individuals to avoid certain situations or events. Having always had a wonderful way with words, she added: “I had to face my worst case scenario. I had no choice any more — I had to look my biggest fear straight in the eye. With doctors unable to contain her bowel cancer, the philanthropist and former deputy head teacher passed away at age 40, but not before completing her second book, in which she openly discussed the anxiety she had lived with for most of her life. DAME DEBORAH JAMES finished her second book, How to Live When You Could Be Dead, shortly before her death due to bowel cancer back in June of this year.